During the first national observance of Martin Luther King Jr. Day, on January 20, 1986, then-President Ronald Reagan stated that it was a “time for rejoicing and reflecting.”

In his official Proclamation 5431, he wrote further:

“We rejoice because, in his short life, Dr. King, by his preaching, his example, and his leadership, helped to move us closer to the ideals on which America was founded. We reflect on his words and his works. Dr. King was truly a prophetic voice that reached out over the chasms of hostility, prejudice, ignorance, and fear to touch the conscience of America. He challenged us to make real the promise of America as a land of freedom, equality, opportunity, and brotherhood.”

President Reagan quoted Dr. King regarding what motivated him: “Our actions must be guided by the deepest principles of our Christian faith. Love must be our regulating ideal. Otherwise, our protest will end up as a meaningless drama on the stage of history … shrouded with ugly garments of shame.”

Also included in the President’s proclamation was Dr. King’s most famous quote:  “I have a dream, that my four little children will one day live in a Nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character… This will be the day when all of God’s children will be able to sing with new meaning, ‘My country ‘tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing.”

I remember how special that day felt in the community where we lived. My wife and I had moved across the country eight years earlier to live and minister in Jackson, Mississippi.

We had moved into a neighborhood of extreme need, where our three children were born, and where we worshipped in a racially diverse and reconciled congregation. We were actively engaged in Christian community development efforts, attempting to flesh out the Good News of God’s love to hurting neighbors in a decaying community.

We had also grown to appreciate the lyrics of a song we had never heard before: Lift Every Voice and Sing by James Weldon Johnson. Affectionately known as the “Black National Anthem,” the words of the first and last stanzas seemed to echo the speech delivered by Dr. King.

Lift every voice and sing, till earth and heaven ring,
Ring with the harmonies of liberty;
Let our rejoicing rise, high as the listening skies,
Let it resound loud as the rolling sea.
Sing a song full of faith that the dark past has taught us,
Sing a song full of hope that the present has brought us;
Facing the rising sun of our new day begun,
Let us march on till victory won.

God of our weary years, God of our silent tears,
Thou who has brought us thus far on the way;
Thou who hast by Thy might, led us into the light,
Keep us forever in the path, we pray.
Lest our feet stray from the places, our God, where we met Thee,
Lest our hearts, drunk with the wine of the world, we forget Thee.
Shadowed beneath Thy hand, may we forever stand,
True to our God, true to our native land.

Observing Martin Luther King, Jr. Day always brings back a flood of memories. One memory, in particular, continues to profoundly impact me decades later.

The sun shined brightly, but the wind was brisk, and the temperatures crisp … as they often are in the month of January in rural Mississippi. My wife and I had left southern California two weeks earlier, stopped briefly in Denver to pick up our meager belongings, and then drove to our new home in the Deep South. The year was 1978.

Recently graduated from seminary, commissioned by our church to serve the “rural poor,” we arrived wide-eyed and hopeful of being used by God in some strategic way. We eagerly (naively?) embraced our new roles, wanting to experience everything possible within the shortest amount of time… not wanting to miss anything that might help us make a difference in our new community filled with heart-breaking needs.

So we toured a pre-school, housed in a small church, located in a poor community, stuck between railroad tracks and the flood-prone Sellers Creek. It was there that God surprised me as I stumbled upon a bit of “Mississippi wisdom.”

Three brief bullet points, hand-printed on faded construction paper, tacked to a crumbling bulletin board, hung on the wall of a narrow hallway:

• Speak to basic human need.
• Use terms that people understand.
• Focus sharply on Jesus Christ.

I never learned who wrote them or fixed them to the wall. But they have shaped every aspect of my life and ministry ever since, including how I approach grandparenting.

“Intentional Christian Grandparenting” may be a new phrase, but it’s truly an ancient concept, grounded in God’s Word, and His design for how families should function. Dr. King acknowledged that we all stand on the shoulders of those who have gone before us.

Intentional Christian Grandparents recognize that it will be our shoulders upon which our grandchildren and their grandchildren will one day stand as well. That trilogy of “Mississippi wisdom” is worthy of reflection as we observe this national holiday.

Editor’s Note: Reflect on your words and deeds as they speak loud and clear about race and race relations to your grandchildren. What is God telling you?

“The B.I.B.L.E., yes that’s the book for me…” I don’t know about you, but that is one of my main prayers for my grandchildren. I want the Bible to be a priority in their lives. I want them to stand on the truths of Scripture no matter what may come. I also desire to help them in this endeavor.

This month, in our 2025 Grandparenting Planner, one of the suggestions is to choose a devotion or Bible study book for your children and grandchildren. The hope and prayer is that studying together will spark faith conversations with your family this year.

Think about how to share the Bible in ways that are educational but also fun, enjoyable, and age-appropriate. Many translations of the Bible are available as well as devotionals too numerous to count. So how do you choose?

Below you will find some helpful principles to keep in mind plus a list of ideas:

1. Biblical Accuracy Is Essential.

Whether you are reading from a children’s picture Bible or storybook or studying a theological topic with the oldest grandchild, priority one is choosing a biblically accurate and sound resource.

Be alert for partial truths or outright falsehoods. Go to trusted sources and read reviews. Ask your pastoral leadership and friends for ideas as well. Even better, go through it first and examine it yourself.

2. The Focus is on God/Jesus.

Legacy Coalition exists so that our grandchildren and their grandchildren follow Christ. As grandparents, that is our heart as well.

Look at resources with a discerning eye and heart – will it help your grandchild come to know, love, and serve Christ more? See if the book or devotional consistently points them to Jesus and their relationship with Him.

One great children’s book is My Wish of All Wishes by Larry Fowler. It shares our heart’s desire that we want our grandchildren in heaven with us!

3. It Draws the Grandchild In.

Search for books and devotionals that will be of interest to your grandchildren. Depending on their age, look for bright, colorful graphics as well as rich content. Is the topic something they would like to pursue?

My grandchildren love animals. When they were young, we used several devotionals that were about God’s amazing creation of unique animals.  We also read lots of books to them. Some of our grandchildren’s favorites were: Forever Falls by Glen Keane (part of the Adam Raccoon series) and Halfway Herbert by Francis Chan (he has several great books for kids). Additional ideas are listed at the end of this post.

As my grandchildren got older, we sought to challenge them and make them think deeper. We read The Chronicles of Narnia books and watched the videos. This led to great conversations and correlations with the Biblical account. We studied more of C.S. Lewis’s books like Mere Christianity with the high school and college-bound grandchildren.

We also discussed cultural issues and the response as Christians to help equip them for conversation with peers and others. We used A Student’s Guide to Culture by John Stonestreet and Brett Kunkle.

4. It Moves Them From Reading to Studying.

As your grandchildren mature and grow, transition from just reading to actually studying the Word together. Choose a devotional or a passage of Scripture you want to study. You can work on it together or separately. If done separately, get together in person or by Marco Polo and share insights gleaned. The bonus is you will also be getting to know them better as they get to know God better.

You can help equip your grandkids with a lifelong study skill that will serve them well. Share how to use a study Bible, concordance, dictionary, and other resources. Consider purchasing these for them or showing them how to use an online resource like Blue Letter Bible app. One of our older teens asked for a study Bible for Christmas this year, and we researched to choose the best fit for him.

These special times of sharing the Bible together can have a tremendous influence on your grandchild’s life as well as your relationship with them. The potential to impact their lives here on Earth is enough of a reason to share God’s Word, but think longer term to eternity. We must fulfill our multigenerational responsibility to teach.

More Resource Ideas to Share

• Bibles – Choose age-appropriate versions, anywhere from a picture Bible to a study Bible.
• Devotionals – These exist for babies, toddlers, preschoolers, pre-readers, new readers, and all the way up to adults. Use Google searches to find lots of choices.
• Tiny Theologians has great resources for the youngest to age 14.
• Books to read to younger grandkids:
  • I Love My Bible by Debby Anderson
  
  
  • The Lord’s Prayer for Little Ones by Debby Anderson
  
  
  • The Ten Commandments for Little Ones by Debby Anderson
  
  
  • His Grace is Enough by Melissa Kruger
  
  
  • Wherever You Go, I Want You to Know by Melissa Kruger
  
  
  • Big Truths for Little Kids by Susan Hunt and Richie Hunt
  
  
  • God’s Wisdom for Little Boys by Jim & Elizabeth George
  
  
  • God’s Wisdom for Little Girls by Elizabeth George
  
  
  • The Squire and the Scroll by Jennie Bishop
• Not Consumed has studies on various topics like siblings and the power of words.
• Books to read and discuss together:
  • Lies Girls Believe by Dannah Gresh
  
  
  • True Girl Bible studies by Dannah Gresh
  
  
  • How Great is Our God: 100 Indescribable Devotions About God and Science  by Louie Giglio, Tama Fortner
  
  
  • Tweens Devotions by Kay Arthur
  
  
  • Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth
  
  
  • The Ology: Ancient Truths, Ever New by Marty Machowski
  
  
  • Passion and Purity by Elizabeth Elliot
  
  
  • Books by R.C. Sproul
• Honey for a Child’s Heart by Gladys Hunt – Includes listings of good books by age
• Generous Kids Book Bundle – Teaching series of books on Christian values

^[1] Article from Crosswalk – https://www.crosswalk.com/family/parenting/best-bible-study-recommendations-for-kids-of-each-age-group.html

As we start off another new year, may we keep a close watch on how we are growing in Christ. It’s easier to watch what our adult children or grandchildren are doing, but Deuteronomy 4:9a tells us that we must first watch ourselves!

Larry Fowler, the founder of Legacy Coalition, shares that this is part of our multigenerational responsibility as Christian grandparents.

Our words, actions, and attitudes will convey what we believe. Little and big grandchildren alike are observing and recording what they see, hear, and feel. May we stay true to what is right for the sake of our own salvation as well as those watchful eyes and ears around us. [1 Timothy 4:16]

Below is a short devotional to encourage and help you start this new year that is full of promise. Let’s look at 1 Timothy 4:16 in the context of watching ourselves. It is a great principle to build godly influence as you connect relationally with your grandchildren.

Observation

The context of this verse is Paul’s admonition to Timothy about his private life and public ministry. It is very important to keep watch on both. It is a huge responsibility. Paul encourages Timothy to examine his own life. 

Take time to read this verse in several translations. This is a great way to understand it better.

Interpretation

God alone is The One who saves, yet you can be God’s instrument to bring about the salvation of your grandchildren.

Your life speaks loudly to your grandchildren – what is it saying? They are looking to you both in your private life as well as your public one. Are you the same at home and in the community? Is your life sending a message that God is good and in control, that He is faithful and can be trusted? Is it leading your grandchildren toward or away from Christ?

Remember that while salvation occurs in the moment of belief, our spiritual life is a process of being conformed to the likeness of Christ. Scripture calls us to persevere in our faith, in other words, to continue to live according to sound doctrine. The spiritual disciplines of Bible study, prayer, and worship will help you persevere in your walk. 

Be cautious not to fall into false teachings. In today’s culture, false teaching abounds, and your grandchildren need to know what is true and right. As you stay true to God’s Word, God may allow you the opportunity to rescue your grandchildren from the doctrinal errors that surround them. Be ready and able to share why you believe in the truth of the Bible.

Application

1. Keep a close watch on yourself.

Take some time to examine yourself. Assess where you are spiritually and where you hope to grow and go this year. Is your life built on knowing, teaching, and practicing God’s Word?

How can you be on constant guard against falling into sin?

What are those areas that cause you the biggest problem? 

What safeguards can you put into place?

How can you guard yourself against false teachings?

2. Continue learning about God through the teaching of His Word.

Check what you believe and are teaching against what God’s Word says. Continue to grow in the grace and knowledge of the Word. This is the greatest safeguard against false teaching – know what the Bible says.

What scriptures are you going to study this year or memorize?

How are you going to grow spiritually this year? Any goals?

How will you share what God teaches you this year with your grandchildren?

3. Don’t quit!

One of the ways we look at scripture with our grandkids is to ponder the passage using the above method of observing the text, interpreting it, and then applying it personally. Next, we have them pray the scripture by using the words in the passage. Those who like to draw, also picture it in their journals.

Depending on the age of your grandchildren, this process of ponder, pray, and picture may work for you. Whether you are reading a children’s Bible to the littles or discussing doctrine with the oldest, find a way to share God’s Word together this year.

First and most importantly, is that you are studying and growing in the WORD. From your overflow, you will live out the Word for them to see, hear, and feel.

Our prayer for you:

Lord, may you keep a close watch on how the grandparents live and teach. May they stay true to what is right for the sake of their own salvation as well as the salvation of their families. May they watch closely the example they are leaving. Amen.

We challenge you to double down your efforts this coming year to use your natural involvement and potential impact to intentionally influence your grandchildren toward spiritual matters.

Kay Arthur, of Precept Ministries, is known to say “There is no retirement in a time of war.” We are waging war not only for the souls of our grandchildren but for those generations not yet born. May we equip our grandchildren to fight the evil one’s attacks.

For this coming year, here are some ways you and your church can live out intentional Christian grandparenting.

Ideas for Churches:

• Launch a church ministry for grandparents – It may just take adding the focus of grandparenting to current ministries for adults.
• Start a grandparenting prayer group – Get together and pray for grandchildren of your church. It could be part of a current prayer time or be added to the beginning of another adult activity.
• Participate in grandparenting events – Grand Monday Nights is our free weekly webinar. Take advantage of National Grandparents Day to celebrate, honor, and challenge your grandparents. Also, check out our national Grandparenting Summit and Grandparenting Matters live, virtual, and on-demand seminars.
• Consider hosting a grandbaby shower – It’s a great way to welcome grandparents into the world of grandparenting and share the importance of their biblical role within the family.
• Include grandparents in child milestone events – Starting with child dedications, include grandparents. This shows the important responsibility they have in the family. Allow grandparents to join with the parents in dedicating themselves to helping disciple the grandchild. At each subsequent milestone, find ways to involve them in the celebration.
• Offer grandparent-grandchild activity – Be creative and think of something they could do together. The focus is on fun and faith where the purposeful activities allow you to naturally share your faith legacy.
• Organize an intergenerational activity – Have an event at your church that encourages and includes all generations. This is a great way to gather families together around one activity. It could be a serving activity or one just for fun. See a great idea in Discipling Your Grandchildren, one of the books in the Legacy Coalition series.
• Continue to learn and be equipped – Our website and store have great resources to encourage, equip, and help you engage more intentionally with your adult children and grandchildren. We are here to help you.
• Think outside the box – On the fifth Sunday in a month, a church in Iowa has grandparents staff the children’s ministry. The grandparents and the children benefit greatly from this interaction.

Ideas for Individuals:

• Joint Bible study – Choose and purchase an age-appropriate Bible or Bible study for you and the grandchild(ren). Consider a time and place to meet, in-person or virtually, to discuss. For young grandkids, they can read the Bible story to you which has the added benefit of helping their reading skills.
• Pray – Consistently pray for each grandchild by name and need. Great resources like our Prayer Placemat are available at our store.
• Share blessings and hopes – Meet in-person or virtually on New Year’s Eve. Allow them to share the blessings of last year and what they are hoping for next year. Their hopes can become part of your prayers for them this coming year.
• Communicate your love – Write a note letting your grandchildren know you desire to love them more dearly this year as you seek to follow our Heavenly Father’s example of steadfast, lavish love flowing from a heart of grace and truth.
• Traditions – Be sure to pass on the who, what, where, why, when, and how of the tradition. So what new tradition will you start this new year? Remember it has been said that traditions are the stories that families write together. What will be the family stories shared next December and beyond – all the way from your grandchildren to those not yet born.
• Speak a blessing over each grandchild – Create a special time of great significance in the life of your grandchild. You could use Numbers 6:24-26.
• Plan an experience or adventure with a grandchild – Instead of material gifts for the grandchildren, consider giving an experience or adventure that you do together. Memories are powerful reminders of your love, care, and interest in them.
• Mealtimes, Car rides, Holidays, Anytime – Use the Let’s Talk conversation cards. They’re a great way to learn about your grandchild as they also learn about you.
• Learn and use apps like Marco Polo – Seek to connect with your grandkids in age-appropriate and interesting ways. Ask them what apps they use, whether it’s Snapchat, Marco Polo, or whatever. Have them show you how to use it and then stay connected with them.

What is at least one thing you can implement this coming year?

Whether you are just starting with baby steps or ready to take giant leaps, make a conscious choice to do something to purposefully equip yourself, other grandparents, and your grandchildren this coming year.

We also encourage you to be very purposeful in sharing with your family what Christmas means to you this holiday season. Enjoy!

Christmas is a reminder of God’s Good News!

Luke 2:10-11: “And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.”

I John 4:14: “ The Father sent the Son to be the Savior of the Word.”

John 3:16: “ For God so loved the world that HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”

John 1: 14: “The Word of God became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory…..”

Romans 6:23: “The wages of sin is death but the GIFT OF GOD is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord.”

– Tina Bradford, Director of Prayer

Christmas is a time to focus.

To me, Christmas is a time focused on gratitude for our Lord and Savior!

– Joannie DeBrito, Family Support Specialist

Christmas to me means – EASTER!

My heart turns toward the whole story – Jesus came as an infant because of my sin problem.

He came then for one reason, to redeem. To me, Christmas is all about Easter! I had a need. He is my solution.

While I celebrate our Savior’s birth, I’m mindful of the “why” – and thinking of what took place on the cross many years later. I’m thankful – and will praise Him through all of eternity for it.

– Jane Larsen, Director of Connections

Christmas is a time to remember the reason we celebrate.

Christmas means our special opportunity to read the Christmas Story with all our family who are present.

They look forward to it every year, and it reminds us all of the reason we celebrate!

– Barb Lorenz, Director of Grand Monday Nights

Christmas means getting out my nativity sets,

As each piece from each set is lovingly unwrapped, it is like receiving THE GIFT all over again.

Not just the gift of the nativity set but the gift of Jesus. A gift that never gets outgrown but grows with you, never wears out but renews every day, and never fades in interest or value but becomes more cherished every day.

May the spirit of Christmas be celebrated more than just one day a year.

– Deb del Villar, Director of Communications

Christmas means familiarity.

I have celebrated the arrival of God to our planet for 76 Christmases.

Familiarity doesn’t always breed contempt. Sometimes it breeds complacency, and we enter into the holy-day season with a ‘Ho Hum! Hum Bug!’ attitude of been there, done that.

How does one combat the Grinch who attacks our mind-less, thought-less, heart-less souls and dulls our exuberant shout ‘Thanks be to God’ for His inexpressible, indescribable gift (2 Cor. 9:15)!?

The repetition of rehearsing and reading Doctor Luke’s version of The Story (Lk 1-2), attending grandkids’ holiday programs, decking the halls and malls, and going to church celebrations and concerts without ‘pondering’ and preparing the soil of our hearts can keep the seeds of joy and hope from sprouting.

The Christ-mas story is encased with paradoxical drama, replete with extremes: fear and courage, sorrow and joy, questions and faith, wonderment and exclamation, despair and hope, and the reminder that absolutely nothing will be impossible with God!

In fact, that’s what sets our Great God above other ‘gods.’

Gabriel’s announcement, Zechariah’s silent response, Elizabeth’s joyful anticipation, and Mary’s magnificently stunning, prophetic song of praise (Lk 2:46-55) revive my joy to this mystery of the ages.

What an incredible account of God’s plan to quietly and oh, so silently enter into our world to then carry out His magnificent ‘save’ of all mankind… and me!

And then there’s the reality check that impacts and softens, no… breaks my heart and quickens my resolve.

Reflecting on the news of our day and comparing it with the news from 2100 years ago, I discovered similarities.

I am reminded that mankind is in need of being rescued, in need of a Savior, in need of Light to lighten our load and light up our world!

The hopes and fears of all the world are met in Thee, Jesus… You, who was and is God and Man, came in the fullness of time to dispel darkness and destroy sin, death, and despair.

That’s what all those pretty lights are all about during this season! Joy to the World!

My prayer is that I, and we, might allow the Light of the world to shine in and through us so this needy world will catch a glimpse of the One who came to deliver, save, and bring joy, hope, peace, and love.

May the night and days before and after Christmas, and all through your house and family, help you…

• Test positive for faith, keep distance from doubt
• Isolate from fear, and trusting God through it all
• Shelter and rest in place and in peace!

– John Coulombe, Director of Spiritual Development

Christmas is a time to celebrate and pass on traditions.

The joy of family traditional foods (Swedish rye bread, sugar cookie decorating with grandkids, Christmas kringle are my favorites).

The meaning of traditions that have been passed down for 3 generations (grandchildren performing the nativity play, family caroling to neighbors, Grandpa reading the Luke 2 passage of Jesus’ birth, giving of gifts to those we love).

Gathering with family and friends for special events and celebrations, and sitting beside the lighted Christmas tree as we welcome the Light of the world to our hearts in a special way during the Advent season.

This year has taken on extra sweet meaning as our 8th grandchild was born Nov 29th – Luciana Gioia aka Lucy Joy, meaning light and joy!

What a perfect name (Joy is Granzy’s middle name) for this little baby girl who has brought a special light and joy to our family this Christmas season!

– Brenda Peitzman, Director of Seminars

Christmas means PEACE.

What does Christmas mean to me? That is a question that as an adult I have honestly never been asked.

As a child, it was asked many times, with the expectation of an answer “The celebration of Jesus’s Birth.”

Posed now at 71 years young, I must say I had to ponder the question for a bit. I even asked the Holy Spirit to help me with an answer that truly fits me.

As promised in scripture if we ask, He will help us, and He quietly answered me as I lay silently in bed listening.

Christmas to me means – “PEACE.”

I am, because of the Who of Christmas, baptized into the peace that passes all understanding.

Because Jesus voluntarily left the comfort of Heaven to become a man (born of a woman) and then gave his life on the cross, I have been reconciled with our Father into a family of Peace.

As a pastor for 23 years, I studied and attained much of the knowledge Scripture has given us about peace with the uses and functions of that peace.

Yet only in the last 5 years as a retired pastor and actively serving in the ministry of Legacy Coalition has this truth become very real.

Sharing the call of Intentional Christian Grandparenting alongside Legacy Coalition has caused me to walk daily in the power and direction of the Holy Spirit.

The Holy Spirit guides my steps and my finances, and even my relationship with my wife of 48 years. Today we daily ask and seek His direction and supply, then we step out to follow that direction.

Today we know that God is indeed in control. Even when a subdural hematoma forced me into brain surgery with 16 weeks of rehab (Ed), or a broken clothesline demanded a shoulder replacement with months of rehab (Jo Beth).

Our faith is firm that each step was and is directed by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Because of Christmas, we can start each day with thankfulness and confidence that He will direct our path. Then, whatever comes, He is already there knowing what tomorrow brings.

– Ed and Jo Beth Vinson, Resource Center, Legacy Coalition

From Legacy Coalition to you – Have a very Merry Christmas!

Grandpa and Grandma started the tradition. It had long been part of the family celebration when I married into my wife’s family. But I gave it the name it has gone by ever since — The Christmas Eve Junk Food Extravaganza.

Christmas Eve

We gather in the home of Grandpa and Grandma and set out plates of cookies, pies, cakes, candies, and anything else that’s sitting around. The dining room table is piled high as the grandkids, cousins, aunts, and uncles fill their plates. We always eat far too much, but it rarely looks like we’ve made a dent in the food.

In recent years, Grandma has started introducing healthy foods, like vegetables, into the mix. We tease her about it, but nobody really minds.

When we finish eating, we gather in the living room. There is a lot of musical talent in the family, so the grandkids take turns playing the piano while everyone sings Christmas carols. I’m not much of a singer, so I volunteer to read Luke 2 every year.

Christmas Day

Christmas day starts slowly. Grandma always makes a big breakfast. The grandkids know there are presents, but they also know none of them will be opened until the adults finish eating and chatting. When we finally make our way into the living room, we find all the kids huddled around the tree.

Dinner is in the middle of the afternoon. Grandpa always starts with a prayer of thanksgiving to the Lord for becoming a man, dying for our sins, and rising again to give us life. The main course is always ham, so tasty and delicious it’s like eating candy. And, of course, the other dishes include seafoam salad, a concoction made with jello, Cool Whip, and pears which tastes far better than the name would indicate.

In the evening, it’s time for another tradition. Again, Grandpa and Grandma started it long before I arrived but I am responsible for the name — The Hokey Film Festival. We watch Holiday Inn or Christmas in Connecticut or some other old favorite. Even the kids, who normally couldn’t be dragged kicking and screaming into a room where a black-and-white movie is showing, gather around.

Day After Christmas

The day after Christmas has traditions of its own. My brother-in-law and I take off in his truck, with whatever kids want to come along. We explore the backwoods of Arkansas looking for remote trails to hike or waterfalls to explore. Grandma, the aunts, and whatever kids want to tag along, head into town for shopping and a nice lunch. Grandpa mostly stays home alone and sleeps. That’s his own tradition, and he enjoys the break in the busy season.

The grandkids are mostly grown now. Some of them have kids of their own. The family is more spread out and not everyone makes it every Christmas. But we continue the traditions with whoever makes it.

Conclusion

Traditions are important. The kids love the togetherness of having everyone in the same room singing, listening to the Scripture, or watching old movies. It’s safe. There’s no pressure to be someone you’re not. No worries about whether you’re accepted. Everyone is equally important and equally loved. It’s a haven. And that’s exactly what family is supposed to be.

As a grandparent, you are in the perfect place to emphasize the traditions in your family. If you don’t have any, it’s never too late to start. Whatever traditions you have, see them as a platform for ensuring that the main thing remains the main thing.

Make sure the story behind Christmas is told well and given prominence in all you do. After all, our traditions should help us remember why we have the traditions in the first place.

Advent is a season of pausing, pondering, and preparing to celebrate the arrival of the Christ Child. It is a time of wonder and expectation. The eyes of a small child enamored and mesmerized by lights and shining packages quickly remind us of this fact.

Amidst all the tantalizing smells, sights, and sounds, let us be deliberate in pointing our grandchildren to Emmanuel–God with us. May these practical ideas be a jumpstart for you.

1. Share the Story

There are so many ways to accomplish this. A quick perusal of Pinterest will supply more ideas than you can use.

Two of my favorites ways are Jesse Tree and Story Stones. Using visuals and symbols is especially important when your grandchildren are young. Scripture is read as each visual is focused on.

An advent wreath is also great for incorporating symbols and Scripture readings. The four purple candles represent the prophets, Bethlehem, shepherds, and angels. They correspond to hope, faith, joy, and peace. The white candle lit on Christmas morning is the Christ candle. He is the light of the world. There are various readings to do with each candle. Pick one that is appropriate for the age of your grandchildren. We also add the appropriate nativity pieces as each portion is read. For instance, when angels are spoken of, we add the angels to the advent wreath.

Whichever method you choose to share the story, be sure to use your Bible.

2. Worship

Christmas music is so beautiful and sets the stage for a worshipful heart. We have it playing in the background throughout every day.

Consider choosing a song to learn about its history as well as its lyrics. Share what you learn with your grandchildren.

Maybe choose a song from your ethnic heritage. If you have musicians within your family, play and sing it together. Maybe you could even write your own song.

3. Family Activity

The goal is to spend time together, creating memories and building stronger relationships.

One of my family’s favorites is building a puzzle – each year a more complicated one is chosen in line with the grandchildren’s ages. We enjoy watching Christmas movies and drinking hot chocolate too.

Another favorite is finding a way to serve the community together. Whether it is purchasing items for an at-need family or delivering cookies to the first responders; we want to show love in a tangible way.

You can also play games together. Some of our favorites are Christmas Scattergories, Pictionary, charades, and minute-it-to-win-it games.

During these fun and laughter-filled times, we intentionally point to how God was faithful through the past year. God has provided and blessed in so many ways. We encourage all to share.

4. Shower for Baby Jesus

Consider contacting your area charities or crisis pregnancy centers to see what critical items are needed. It is a joy to gather items that a new baby would need and then deliver them to the center. Conversations with your grandchildren can center around Jesus coming as a baby.

5. Love Jar

Write on slips of paper the reason you love each member of the family. Try to be specific and include several for every member. Place the slips in a jar or candy dish on the table. At Christmas, take a slip out and read it. Continue for the upcoming meals until all the slips have been read.

Another idea is to start in January, writing down all the ways God has blessed your family. Then next Christmas you would read one each day and rejoice anew at how God has been faithful.

6. Send Greetings

Be sure to send greetings to each family. Marco Polo, Zoom, or other apps are excellent ways to stay connected, especially with those who live at a distance.

You could also write a note or letter to each grandchild telling them how you will be praying for them this next year. Think about what character trait you have noticed needs some extra effort and what spiritual gifts seem to be surfacing. Then construct your prayer around those things, always listening to the Holy Spirit’s leading.

7. Treasure Hunt

Treasure hunts are especially fun for the younger grandchildren. You could write Luke 2 on slips of paper, breaking it up into portions. These slips of paper can be hidden around for them to find. When they are found, encourage your grandchildren to put them in order. Then read the passage from the Bible.

If the grandchildren are very young, hiding items that are found in the Luke account is a good option. Once all the hidden items are found, read the Luke account from a children’s Bible.

8. Honor Your Heritage

Share about the customs and food from where your ancestors came. Look online or find books about how Christmas is celebrated in other countries. It has been so fun to learn how Christmas is celebrated across the world. You may even want to learn how to say Merry Christmas in your family’s native language.

Teach your grandchildren about where they came from; it bridges the past with the present while also giving a sense of security, safety, and belonging.

Making recipes from your ‘home’ country is also fun. Be sure to tell your family stories making connections to how your grandparents celebrated Christmas.

9. Dinner by Starlight (Candles)

Eating dinner by candlelight is a special way to set apart this season. Candles set a tone of contemplation and quiet.

For younger grandchildren, you could make a meal with the food items cut into star shapes. The conversation could center around what part stars played in the Christmas story. One example is the shepherds keeping watch over the sheep at night. Another is the wise men followed the star.

10. Attend Grandchildren’s Events

Show your support and love by going to any event that you can. Most schools and churches have events during this time of the year. Cheer them on.

11. Read a Favorite Christmas Book

Share with your grandchildren some of your favorite Christmas books. The Gift of the Magi is one of my favorites. Another tradition is to read The Night Before Christmas on Christmas Eve just before the grandchildren go to bed.

Ask your grandchildren about their favorite book and read it to them during this season.

12. Gift Making

One of our favorite activities is helping the grandchildren make gifts for their parents and siblings. They come individually to Grandad or me with their ideas. Depending on the idea, Grandad or I will help them make their gift. It is a double blessing as we get to spend concentrated time with them while also teaching them a skill.

In past years, Grandad has done woodworking, painting, and building with them. I have done crafts, photography, and cooking.

Final Idea

This year may you focus more on giving your presence and less on presents. May you purpose in your heart to find ways to be more present in your grandchildren’s lives this next year.

Be creative if your grandchildren live at a distance or other barriers or obstacles make it difficult. Remember even if you cannot talk to your grandchildren, you can always talk to God about your grandchildren. Go to Him, rest in His presence, relish His promises, and rely on His faithfulness!

Let’s remember Deuteronomy 4:9 “Make them known to your children and your children’s children” and Psalm 16:6 “The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places;
indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.”

Do not forget during this busy season to stop, rest, and share your God stories with your grandchildren. Help them come to believe, adore, and celebrate the Christ Child.

Denise dreaded Christmas. What used to be a joy-filled holiday was now a date she wished wasn’t even on the calendar. Family relationships weren’t the same after her husband Tim left. Just two years later, their daughter’s marriage ended in divorce. Accusations were made. Wounds were deep. The rift between mother and daughter was wide, and the air was thick with tension whenever they were together. Denise wanted her precious grandkids to know about God, but she felt powerless.

Christmas had become sour because of broken and toxic family relationships.

Dominique and Crystal made a big deal about Christmas. Still, the focus was on Santa, elf movies, decorations, and lots of expensive gifts, especially from the other grandparents who were more financially able to be extravagant. Dom’s parents, Will and Nina, were frustrated grandparents. Nothing in their grandchildren’s Christmas focused on Jesus. Whenever it was mentioned, Crystal would flippantly say, “You know, we just want Christmas to be fun for our kids (implying that including Jesus would be boring).”

Christmas had become secularized by materialistic values.

Alfonse and Maria enjoyed close relationships with their three daughters and spouses. All were believers and made a genuine effort to celebrate the real meaning of Christmas. They had always read the Christmas story together before opening gifts. Maria noticed their older grandkids were tuning out the familiar scriptures. They needed some freshness in how they reminded the grandchildren of Jesus’ birth.

Christmas had become stale due to a lack of creativity.

Family Dynamics Impact Christmas Celebrations

If one of those scenarios sounds a bit too familiar, you may think “Why do I even bother?” Let me offer two powerful reasons and urge you NOT to give up.

First, you have so much potential for influence!

You’re in an ideal position to spiritually impact your grandchildren, Grandma or Grandpa. You are second only to parents in potential influence. No Sunday School teacher, youth worker, or pastor has the potential you have. You have their heart. You have a childhood-long relationship. You know and love them, and they know and love you.

More importantly, Scripture commands it!

Deuteronomy 4:9 (NIV) is so clear; “…teach them to your children and to their children after them.” According to this verse, we are to teach two generations, not just one. We teach by telling our faith stories and sharing what we have seen Him do. As the spiritual matriarch or patriarch of your family, it is your responsibility to do all you can to pass on your faith. Your choice is not whether or not to do it, but how to do it. Let’s explore the “hows.”

When Relationships Are Sour…

Is your family like Denise’s with tension, hurt feelings, or outright animosity dominating the atmosphere whenever you’re together? You’re the most mature one in the family (or should be) so take responsibility for restoring peace.

Here are some things you can do:

• Ask for forgiveness. That’s the first thing to consider in reconciliation. If you think you don’t need to, look at the relationship through the eyes of others – what would they say?
• Make sure you see the broken relationship, not the other person, as the enemy.
• A quick resolution is often unrealistic. Even if change doesn’t happen this Christmas, dream of a better relationship in the future, and make this holiday season a step to reach that goal.
• Show grace. It’s fascinating that Jesus, the complete embodiment of both grace and truth (John 1:14) often led with grace. If you’ve tried to get them to see things your way (that’s leading with truth) and it’s not working, then change to a “Jesus strategy” and lead with grace. Try to genuinely understand their point of view (that’s grace). Forgive. Love unconditionally. When we show unconditional love and grace, the Holy Spirit uses these almost irresistible tools to impact the thinking of others.

If you are to have hope of impacting your grandchildren for Christ, the chain of soured relationships must be broken. Be the best servant in the room. Determine that – this Christmas – you will do your best to be the chain-breaker!

When It’s All About the Stuff…

When Christ is left out of Christmas, either by the parents’ decision or over-indulgent gift-giving, the real meaning of Christmas is lost somewhere in the stuff. What can you do?

Don’t go against the parents’ wishes – after all, they are first responsible for the children, not you. Crystal’s comment to Nina, “You know, we just want Christmas to be fun for our kids” was telling. But it also gave Nina an idea of how to honor Dom and Crystal’s wishes and still bring Jesus’ birth into their Christmas.

Here are some ideas:

• When our grandkids were small, we often had them act out the Christmas story. We designated one end of the living room as Nazareth, and the other as Bethlehem. The wise men weren’t allowed on the scene, of course, until after the “birth” of Baby Jesus.
• My friends Tina and Ray “kidnap” their grandkids to go view Christmas lights. They talk with the kids about why people may have chosen to have holiday inflatables, lots of lights, etc. Plan a similar outing with your grandkids, and be sure to go by a house with a manger scene which gives you a perfect chance to share with them the Biblical story of Jesus’ birth.
• Host a birthday party for Jesus. Your grandkids can help bake and decorate the cake if they’re old enough, then everyone can enjoy eating it. Don’t forget to sing ‘Happy Birthday’ to Jesus. Tell or read the story of Jesus’ birth. My friend Elaine does this at what she calls “Advent Angels” – an annual, pre-Christmas event packed full of faith-based crafts, movies, snacks, and fun for her grandkids.
• Together, practice the act of giving. Take cookies to a shut-in neighbor or your local police department. Deliver canned goods to the food bank or some warm socks and gloves to a shelter. By giving, you’re sharing a valuable perspective and also the joy that comes from doing so.
• Research and implement Jesus-focused Christmas traditions from other countries, especially your family’s country of origin.

When Christmas Becomes Stale…

As your grandchildren become teens, it’s challenging to keep Christmas spiritually fresh, especially if they’ve heard Luke 2 so many times it’s memorized. Rituals become rote, and routine becomes boring.

Here are a few new ideas to try:

• Make gifts more experiential. Instead of things, give experiences, like tickets for you and your grandkids to attend a sporting event or concert. Registration for a church youth group event. Family memberships to a zoo. Coupons for a “grand date” for you and your grandchild.
• Make gifts more personal. My friend John customized a study Bible with his own notes for each of his grandkids. Do that for your grandkids on a milestone Christmas – maybe their 13^th.
• Make gifts more useful. Try a “four-gift Christmas,” where you give each grandchild exactly four gifts: Something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read. This helps grandkids focus when putting together a wish list and it’s an idea that is easily adapted whether you have limited funds or more than enough.
• Make conversations more meaningful. One of our very best Christmases was when – after the presents were opened – we each shared the most meaningful thing that had happened to us in the past year. After lots of laughter, tears, high fives, and hugs, we agreed it was one of the best Christmases ever.
• Make the atmosphere more spiritual. Before you gather, ask each family member’s favorite Christmas carol, and make a playlist of family favorites for background music during the day. At an appropriate time, ask each one to share why they like that carol.
• Make Christmas more memorable. Get out the special plates; dress up; just do things differently than you normally do.
• Write one verse of the Christmas story on each of the gift tags of the presents for your grandchildren, and then tell them they have to find them and read them before opening their presents.
• Make the approach different. Your older grandkids need to be able to answer the “why” questions of faith. So instead of reading the Christmas story, read passages and create activities that emphasize the reasons behind the birth of Jesus. Here are three ideas:
  • Read prophetic passages like 2 Samuel 7:12-16, Isaiah 7:14 and 9:6, Micah 5:2, and others; then read their “fulfillment counterpart” and emphasize how knowing fulfilled prophecies substantiates your faith. Or, write each set of corresponding passages and wrap them in coordinated packages to be opened.
  • Write out John 1:14, Galatians 4:4-5, Philippians 2:6-8, and other passages that point out the theological implications of Jesus’ birth on decorative paper, roll them up as scrolls, and hang them on the Christmas tree. Use them for your “reading of the Christmas story.”
  • Create some “gifts to the world” packages, and in them put a statement or symbol of how the birth of Jesus impacted human history. For example, on the gift tag, write “To: Women  From: Jesus.” Inside, put a card with Galatians 3:28 on it, and “Equality”, with your own statement about how Jesus impacted the status of women. On another, write “To: Sick From: Jesus.” On the card inside write “Medical Care” and Matthew 25:37-40. You can also do this for education, arts, charities, business, government, family, etc. Or, you can do the same with concepts that originated with Jesus, like grace, forgiveness, love, or hope.

Conclusion

Family dynamics impact our lives, and the holidays tend to heighten the good, as well as the not-so-good, in each of us.

You may be struggling with broken relationships this Christmas like Denise. Life as it was is no longer the reality, and it’s been tough. Don’t give up, but give grace.

Your grandkids may have come to expect extravagant gifts, so – like Will and Nina – you may need to discover some new (and fun) ways to share the real meaning of Christmas with your family.

Or maybe your Christmases have become stale. Replace what’s ritualistic with fresh, creative ideas while retaining the truth that Jesus is the reason for the season.

Remember, as grandparents, we are perfectly poised to make a difference in our grandchildren’s lives. It’s what we’re called to do, no matter our family dynamics.

So make a spiritual impact this Christmas. It may require prayer, creativity, communication with your adult kids, and effort. But it is possible, and believe me—it will be well worth your effort!

Legacy Coalition is pleased to compile an updated list of gift ideas from our store and resource partners to help you as you Christmas shop this year.

We’ve included links and details when possible. Please note that many of the gift ideas are great for all ages!

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Gift Ideas for Grandkids

Younger Grandkids:

My Wish of All Wishes – Book by Larry Fowler
This book is a tool that Christian grandparents can use to express their greatest hope – that their grandchildren will be in heaven with them!
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Let’s Talk Cards – Original Edition
Spark meaningful conversations with your grandchildren using these 142 age-specific questions that you ask them or they ask you, all on a handy ring.
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Manger in Danger
This is a fun, interactive family tradition that brings the Christmas story from the Bible to life in 25 days of family devotionals!
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Grandchild Promise Cards
Write love notes to your grandchildren, including the promises of God.
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Generous Kids Book Bundle
Teach kids character traits like generosity, kindness, and empathy with 10 well-crafted children’s books in a keepsake box.
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Books
Here are a few different books that are great for the littlest grandchildren.

• The Berenstain Bears
• The Garden, The Curtain and The Cross
• What the Bible Is All About

Follow the Star
This book is a rhyming story that coordinates with a hide and seek activity (included with the book) to learn more about Jesus.
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Miss PattyCake
Her resources are faith-based, music-driven, and designed to introduce young children to God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and the Bible.
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Focus on the Family – Clubhouse Jr. Magazine (ages 3-7)
Give your grandchild solid values, godly wisdom, and a growing faith!
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Elementary-Age Grandkids:

Let’s Talk Cards – Holiday Edition
Use these conversation cards during 10 different holidays to ask intentional questions and develop relationships with your grandkids.
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Creation, Captives, Cross: The Bible Game
A unique blend of trivia, challenges, and hands-on experiences designed to make learning about the Bible both educational and entertaining.
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Bibles
Here are a few different Bibles that are great for your grandchildren.

• The Action Storybook Bible
• The Adventure Bible for Kids
• The Jesus Storybook Bible

Focus on the Family – Clubhouse Magazine (ages 8-12)
Give your grandchild solid values, godly wisdom, and a growing faith!
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Grandparent Camp Programs
Unique faith adventures for grandparents and their grandchildren focused on leaving a faith-legacy for the next generations. (You can check out Christian Grandparenting Network GrandCamps here.)

Camp Scholarship
Check out the camp that the grandchild would like to attend or has attended in the past and help cover the costs.

Faith Journaling for Kids Book
An Adventure in Creatively Connecting with God; My Thankful Journal for Kids: Giving Thanks Day by Day from Deborah Haddix.
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Gifts around a talent or skill
If your grandchild enjoys music, you could cover the cost of music lessons. If they enjoy sports, you could cover the cost of a league or sports camp.

Older Grandkids:

Let’s Talk Cards – Grown-Up Grandchildren Edition
Use these conversation cards to go deeper into areas of memories, relationships, life, and faith, to strengthen your bond with grown-up grandchildren.
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Missions Trip Fund
You can help start a savings account for them to go on the trip!

Adventure/Experience
Find out the cost of something your grandchild would like to do and create a gift certificate with the details to give them.

Summit Ministries
Your grandkids will gain tools to engage winsomely with the culture.
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Personal Journal
You can purchase a journal with a specific grandchild in mind. Then encourage them to develop the habit of writing down what they are grateful for each day along with what God is teaching them, prayers, or praises.

Bible Study Book
You can purchase one for the grandchild and one for you to do together in person or virtually.

Encourage U
Send college-aged grandkids a fun box that can bolster their faith.
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Gift Ideas for Grandparents

Consider sharing this list with your family and friends if they ask you what you want for Christmas.

2025 Legacy Planner
This is a practical tool to inspire and encourage you to have a greater spiritual impact on your family all year long.
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Prayers for My Grandchildren Placemat
A great reminder to pray for your grandchildren, no matter how far away they are.
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Legacy Coalition Book Series
We have books on a wide range of topics for grandparents!
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Grandparent Camp Programs
Unique faith adventures for grandparents and their grandchildren focused on leaving a faith-legacy for the next generations.

Airline Ticket to Visit
What better gift could you receive than a visit to see your family?

My Declaration Artwork
Beautiful calligraphy of what it means to be an Intentional Christian Grandparent. (Suitable for framing)
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Resources from Debbie Haddix
She has a number of books and free resources available for grandparents.
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We hope you found these gift ideas helpful and that you have a blessed Christmas season!

Your Team at Legacy Coalition

“May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord continue to look upon you with favor and give you peace. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen.”

Rick is a grandfather who prays this prayer of blessing over his grandchildren whenever he has the opportunity. He places his hands on their heads and uses the same words each time. His grandchildren know that they are blessed!

Did you know that your grandchildren want your blessing? They really do. You don’t have to say a prayer over your grandchildren when you bless them (although that’s not a bad idea!).

If you really want to bless your family, follow these five easy-to-remember steps:

B – Be There for Them. Children spell love T-I-M-E, so give your grandkids plenty of it. Learn how to create enough margin in your life to be present in their lives regularly and consistently.

L – Listen to Them. Remember that listening is the language of love. When we give children (or teens) our attention, listening with both ears, we give them a blessing that no one else can give.

E – Encourage Them. Bless your grandchildren with affirmation. Be generous with praise and “catch them in the act of doing something good.” Children thrive when they know that their parents or grandparents are crazy about them.

S – Speak the Truth in Love. Teach your grandchildren what they need to know. Share your life with them as well as God’s Word. Tell them your stories. Kids need to know that you care about them enough to give them the guidance and direction they need. If they don’t get it from you, they’ll get it from somewhere else. Remember that the first three (B-L-E) win you the opportunity to be heard.

S – Support Them with Grace and Forgiveness. Be the kind of grandparent that Jesus described in His story of the lost (prodigal) son. Your grandchildren will undoubtedly disappoint you and make mistakes along the way. Bless them with grace and forgiveness.

In his short story “The Capitol of the World,” Ernest Hemingway tells the story of a Spanish father and his teenage son. The relationship between this father and son became strained and eventually shattered. When the rebellious son—whose name was Paco—a common Spanish name—ran away from home, his father began a long and arduous search to find him. As a last resort, the exhausted father placed an ad in a Madrid newspaper, hoping that his son would see the ad and respond to it. The ad read,

Dear Paco, please meet me in front of the newspaper office at noon. All is forgiven. Love, Papa.

As Hemingway tells the story, the next day at noon, in front of the newspaper office, there were 800 Pacos, all seeking forgiveness from their fathers. How do you want to be a blessing to your grandchildren this week? There are as many ways to do it as there are Pacos in Spain.

Editor’s Note: Do you know about the National Blessing Day in November? This year, it’s on November 24th. Founded in 2023 by two national ministries, StrongFamilies and Legacy Minded Men, the National Blessing Day^TM exists to help each of us take a powerful and practical step to heal a generation – and a nation – desperate for authentic love and acceptance. By giving someone we love our blessing, we can meet a deep, critical need that each of us has: The need to be seen, valued, and authentically loved by someone else.

The Blessing isn’t a formula or something that can only be done once a year. Every day, you can use one or all 5 elements of the Blessing to impact a life. However, to bring a focus to our need to bless, one day a year, on the Sunday before Thanksgiving, they ask churches, parents, individuals, leaders, and every believer to choose at least ONE PERSON to bless. By following the Biblical steps of the Blessing, you can truly change a life – and give someone the gift of your, and the Lord’s authentic love and acceptance. Find more information here!