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Mon, 19 Feb 2024 21:24:12 +0000

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Healing Ourselves in Order to Heal Our Relationships (Part 3) - Legacy Coalition — Mon, 12 Feb 2024 20:59:53 +0000

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By: Dr. Joannie

Dr. Joannie — Sat, 27 Jan 2024 11:46:02 +0000

Thank you all for your comments. I am touched that my story was helpful to all of you and appreciate hearing your stories as well. Remember that pain is a part of life and we are most likely to be able to get through that pain with the love and support of others, often people that God puts in our lives. I encourage you all to be transparent with your trusted friends and loved ones and to talk to God about your hurts. Allow Him to heal you.
Bob, your awareness of the pain that can be caused will likely help you to not release that pain on your grandchildren. I will pray that God will still your tongue (as He has had to do plenty of times for me!)
Matthew, I will pray for you, your wife and your family. You might also want to call Focus on the Family at 855-771-4357 to request a consultation with a counselor about your specific situation.
I will provide more ideas about some steps to healing in my next blog so be sure to check it out.

By: Legacy Coalition Blog Team

Legacy Coalition Blog Team — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 17:34:33 +0000

In reply to Matthew Potter. May God give you the strength, discernment, grace and love to grandparent well. May He continue to heal your soul and bring you joy.

By: Matthew Potter

Matthew Potter — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 17:02:38 +0000

Joannie, thanks for the long, detailed info of how you overcame a strict, harsh and critical mother. My earthly father was of a strict harsh critical nature as well. My great-grandfather was mentally ill, an alcoholic, and he almost murdered my grandfather when he was a boy. My grandfather then, didn’t know how to raise or parent my earthly father, and as a result, I was the middle-child, and was harshly scolded, criticized, and was quickly shamed by my earthly father. He didn’t have enough sense to get me professional help until later I had already suffered a 6-month-long episode of schizophrenia, and was basically left to myself except for my mother. I AM ASKING for prayer as to how to FOSTER my Stepdaughter,and Step-son-in-law, and my Step grandsons. Will you PLEASE PRAY for my wife, Melanie & I as we take on this huge, but honorable role as grandparents until we are too old to take care of ourselves any longer? I also need courage to face this task, as I have Never attempted anything like this until now.Thank you very Much! Please pray for me & my wife, Melanie for guidance on this issue! Thank you!

By: Bob

Bob — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 14:36:41 +0000

The example of grandparents are powerful, in this regard. I watched one of my grandmothers make repeated negative statements to my mother — her daughter — and my mother never repeated that same verbal abuse to me or my brother. My mom broke the cycle. This grandmother would give my Mom the silent treatment for weeks and months when she was displeased with my mother. My brother and I would not receive birthday periods during these periods of silence; we were too young to understand the emotional dynamics, so we were resentful as well. When this grandmother died, my Mom and the rest of us felt more “relief” than grief. The verbal barrage was over. Such is so sad. We should have deeply loved and grieved the loss of my grandmother. I do not want to be that kind of grandfather to my 5 grandchildren. I am very aware when my spirit gets critical and I need to bite my tongue. Thank you so much for the transparency of these two blog posts. The pieces were very well written.

By: Geri Long

Geri Long — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 05:51:40 +0000

Great and inspiring story. Thank you for sharing.

By: Grace

Grace — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 02:15:26 +0000

I can relate to childhood trauma and feeling isolated. I was the sick one, the reason we had to get rid of dog, remove Christmas tree. Many years later realizing how it really effected the little girl and now adult grandparent

By: Maren Breitwieser

Maren Breitwieser — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 01:25:35 +0000

Thank you so much!

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 23:49:31 +0000

I resonate with your story. If I had not choose to forgive after healing through counseling and ministry to my “little girl” and receiving the love of other members of the body who modeled unconditional acceptance to me, the ending of my time with my mother on earth would have been regretful. I am so grateful that God was able to love my mom through me in the final days of her life so I could experience peaceful closure with her at her death at 95 years of age. Praise God for His mighty work of restoration and healing through His grace and love through the Holy Spirit.