Question:
Any suggestions for building relationships with my grandchildren when parents do not encourage it or even stop it? I have 11 grandchildren, yet only 2 can I have a relationship with. 3 out of our 5 children either don’t talk to me or it is very limited.
I’ve had holidays and birthdays with not much acknowledgment for remembering them. Time is passing and I’ve lost so much of their growing years. Is there any suggestion for this situation?
Response:
Continue to remember birthdays and holidays, even though you are not acknowledged for your thoughtfulness. You never know how your kind gestures might be impacting one or more grandchildren. I have known of many grandchildren who have gotten in touch with grandparents once they left home, and they began to have relationships with those grandparents.
Often, they acknowledge that the desire to be in touch was nurtured by the kindness shared by their grandparent throughout their childhood. It would also be helpful for you to know why some of your children don’t talk to you or do, but on a limited basis.
It sounds as if there is an opportunity for you to attempt to heal those relationships. Doing so would likely open up the opportunity for you to be able to have relationships with their children.
I encourage you to seek to reconcile with your children. Pray that God would soften the hearts of your children and grandchildren toward you. Ask Him to help you be willing to hear what they have to say and be open to making changes to bring about healing for all of you.
1 thought on “Lost Time With Grandchildren”
I have realized that MAYBE God is protecting ME, because when I AM around their family, I see/hear unhappiness, disrespect – adults and children, chaos.
I pray. Things are a little better between me and my daughter-in-law.
All of them are Christians, but they don’t seem to hear Him.
ACHE and PRAY.
Tho the ache is much less – after specific prayer about removal of it.